

Julia Pereira Dias


How to Have Difficult Conversations
Benefits of Purging
Did you know that the primary definition of purging — before involving your bowels or getting rid of stuff — is this: a : to clear of guilt b : to…
The Right Question
For most of my career as advisor for Results Based Monitoring (RBM) I supported government and NGO teams in changing their perspective and approach to…

Confronting Shame — The Last Door
By Julia Pereira Dias Shame spits into your romantic dinner. Shame coughs blood on the hands that reach out. Shame laughs its ugly cackle at…

The Best Advice
By Julia Pereira Dias Aren’t we the selfless ones? “My husband could save so much time, if only he’d listen to me,” sighs Diane. She…

Are You Willing To Receive?
By Julia Pereira Dias Most of us are primarily concerned with the question: what can I get? That question is futile. You can have it…

Am I Racist?

How to Free Yourself from Expectations
By Julia Pereira Dias Nothing causes as much frustration as unmet expectations. In fact, I dare say that every single time we suffer, get mad,…

What is the Price for Belonging?
By Julia Pereira Dias A lot of our expectations are not our own. Culture shapes what we think about the world, about what people, including…

Why It’s Worth to Surrender to Those Annoying Little Moments in Life
By Julia Pereira Dias We’re told that everything happens for a reason. But really, what good could possibly lie in those everyday irritating instances such…

6 Steps to Befriend Your Fears and Get a Life
By Julia Pereira Dias I could start the article by suggesting that the corona virus was designed and spread by the toilet paper industry, but…

5 Ways to Overcome Despair and Have Fun Doing So
By Julia Pereira Dias They say the best way to avoid your own tantrum is to count to ten. It’s never worked for me. This…

Everyone is Fake!
By Julia Pereira Dias Few terms get the heat up as quickly as ‘fake’ these days. Everybody hates the fakes. Except here is the truth:…

Have We Reached the End of Positive Thinking?
By Julia Pereira Dias So, I hear that positive thinking has fallen from grace. It has “brainwashed [us] into thinking that that confidence will eventually…

What I learned from keeping chickens

Thou Shalt Not Unhamster
By Julia Pereira Dias Not everyone is frustrated about not having followed their dreams. I know a number of wonderful people that live the ‘normal…

How Good is Good Enough?
By Julia Pereira Dias One of my passions is looking at what sticks in our minds like glue and takes away the space we need…

A Little Course in Mental Gardening: Grub up the Guilt
By Julia Pereira Dias When I was about eleven years old, my little brother, then six, slipped me a note to invite me to his…